Making MS Patients Feel Worthless is WRONG

"I have to be the one to take care of you". "Oh, you probably can't remember". "What am I going to do with you?". These are things so called loved ones say to disabled people with Multiple Sclerosis, making them feel worthless.

I know people. Home training and compassion should teach people how to handle disabled person's feelings, but it doesn't always. Some people feel the need to say this shyt to disabled people. Sadly,  this happened to me and i'm not even bedridden at the moment. "I have to do everything for you". I remember a time when I did everything for everyone else, but I didn't throw it up in their faces. I get venting, but sometimes you have to ask yourself if this is something you can handle hearing for the rest of your life, or if it's just too hard to live with. "Who else do i have to vent to?!" It's sickening to drag a disabled person through that, honestly, because they shouldn't have anyone venting to them about how difficult and burdening for them to be taken care of. That's low key abusive.

Disabled people,  senior citizens, and children have a right for honest heartfelt care. The senior and disabled come with checks, but still are treated worthless. Most times their entire check goes to their care, so they don't have much extra and are depending on others, but to what cost do they have to live through it with no dignity?

I'm saddened because it's happened to me before and it's happening to others and it needs to stop. Verbal and emotional abuse is real. Just like child protective services, there are protection services for elderly and disabled. The government will remove the person from the home and fine or jail the "abuser". Too many people get away with being mean and heartless and thoughtless to those in need of care. We much promote quality care and treatment to and for those who can't help but to rely on the assistance of others. It's okay for the disabled person to bring up their issues but it's not only mean but tacky to throw up a disabled persons downfalls to their faces; they can't help it, a**holes!

If you cannot properly care for your loved ones without being emotionally and verbally assaulting to them, seek help. Go to caretaker classes or family counseling or even volunteer training along with the standard cpr classes. Nobody should be subject to "cruelty from animals".

Just a little food for thought.

Boys To Men And Little Girl's Candy

I declare, it's incredibly hard for me to these boys to men.  Being the momma hen up here in the coop, I know it's up to me to show them direction...but testerestone is not an easy thing to feat.  Neither is estrogen.  It's so hard to raise a little girl into a nice girl-like girl, if that makes any sense.  My children do the most.

I can't get around like I used to; not while I'm in this relapse.  This relapse is a result, I think, of the high bills that we face at home.  AND the food we've been eating.  And my lack of appetite.  Meanwhile, I have everyone depending on me and so because I can't fully relax, I can't get out of this relapse.  They all make me want to go on vacation for about a month but we can't afford to yet.

Here's the thing; with my MS it's best for me to stay in my room with my phone, my laptop, my TV/Remote, and a set schedule where my meals will be brought in.  I only need to leave for dates with the husband (and the wives) , family time, or brief biz meetings/events.  Other than that when I'm at home I like to stay to myself and be removed from any stress.  I even limit who can reach me via phone.  That's one of the ways that I stay healthy.  I'm really fun at home, but I also need a lot of solitude to keep my levels steady.

I've been watching more TV.  That's something I steered away from for awhile, but now I see I need it more.  My daughter, who is eleven, keeps having false alarms on as to if she is coming on her menstrual cycle for the first time, my middle son is unhappy that we don't have a lot of money, and my oldest son finds every excuse in the book to look down on me and to hold a grudge because after 2004 I had to live for me in order to live for them.  He resents me a lot.  I don't care because I did my best and nobody else really tried to help. But I also owe him a lot of gratitude for being a responsible son back then. I want to be hard on him now so he will be a stronger man in the future, but I have to remember that I'm his mother and the only one he has, no matter how many replacement mothers he's had in the past.   I'm just numb to being hurt by him or his father or anyone that seemingly is abusive.  I'm no longer afraid.  He'll work it out.  They all will, hubby included.  I spoil them all and now that I know i have to start back putting me first in order to get healthy, not everyone will be soiled anymore.  I'll still try, though.

When you are disabled, i don't care if you have a 200k/yr job, you can get sick and go bankrupt, time and time again.  That's the nature of the beast.  But it also is a beauty because it allows me to command for peace. My husband and I don't argue that much, because if it gets out of hand I will be sick.  So that means he'll treat other female family members like that, too.  Stress makes people sick.  He's a good man.  And we work well together.  The entire family is supportive of us and our love.  GOD be the glory.  And these kids better get right (bless their hearts).

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